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To be witnessed is to correct past experiences. Let the protector rest.

 Nonjudgmental witnessing is not passive. It is not an agreement. It is not indulgence. It is the disciplined act of staying present with what is real, without trying to correct, minimize, fix, or control it. When I say witnessing, I mean something specific. I mean, holding steady eye contact while someone tells the truth they have never said out loud. I mea,n noticing the tremor in their hands and not rushing to stop it. I mean recognizing that the body is discharging something that once had nowhere to go. I mean staying regulated enough that their pain does not become your emergency. For many trauma survivors, what injured them was not only what happened. It was what happened in the absence of a witness. Violence without intervention. Shame without defense. Grief without acknowledgment. Fear without protection. The nervous system organizes around those absences. It learns that intense emotion must be managed alone. It learns that visibility is dangerous. It learns that...
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A Homecoming I Didn’t Expect

 Well, it has been since July since I last checked in. A lot has taken place. More than I ever could have imagined. I cracked open in ways I didn’t see coming and healed pieces of myself I didn’t even know were still hurting. I definitely didn’t expect any of it to happen the way it did. We moved back to Delaware from South Carolina. Honestly, I’m grateful we did. On the drive home, something in me broke loose. I cried and cried until I had no tears left. Somewhere on that highway, I touched a root fear that had been buried so deep I didn’t even know it still ruled me. The fear of abandoning my son the way my father abandoned me. That realization hit me hard. It shook my entire system. But something surprising followed. After the tears came relief. A softening. A release. It was like I had reached into the bottom of an old wound and finally cleared out the debris. I could see clearly that I am not my father. I never was. That was the fear that kept circling me for years, and in t...
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Why Racism is a White Problem to be Fixed by White People

  Why Racism is a White Problem to be Fixed by White People As a Middle Eastern therapist who is white-passing and committed to serving BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities, I have a small fraction of experience with marginalization based on my ethnic identity. While my experience differs significantly from that of my Black, Indigenous, and other clients of color, I believe it's crucial to address the systemic issues that impact all our mental health—even when it means having uncomfortable conversations about race and privilege. The statistics are stark : BIPOC individuals are 20% more likely to experience serious mental health problems, yet they access mental health services at significantly lower rates than white Americans. According to the American Psychological Association, this disparity isn't about individual choices—it's about systemic barriers that were intentionally created and continue to be maintained by white-dominated institutions. It's time we name this real...
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Remembering My Name: Reclaiming Lebanese Roots Through Folklore, Faith, and Fire

  Remembering My Name: Reclaiming Lebanese Roots Through Folklore, Faith, and Fire There’s a kind of ache that comes from forgetting things you never knew you were supposed to remember. A pull in the blood. A whisper in the bones. My name is Kevin. I was born a Peterson—but that wasn’t our name before America. My family names were Saab and Bahudub , once proudly carried through the mountains of Lebanon. When they arrived on American soil, those names became Raymond , and just like that, a thousand years of memory got folded into silence. I was raised Roman Catholic. My family was Maronite Catholic before that. I knew the prayers, the sacraments, the incense and holy water. But I didn’t know the stories of our people. I didn’t know our ancestral dialects, our folklore, or the way we used to touch the sacred before colonial borders were drawn and religion became a box. I Went Back to Find Myself I didn’t go looking for Islam out of religious interest. I went searching for Leb...
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The Unfinished Business of Trauma: Why Your Body Needs to Shake and Cry

The Unfinished Business of Trauma: Why Your Body Needs to Shake and Cry We've all been told to "be strong," "hold it together," or "suck it up" in the face of a crisis. From a young age, many of us learn to suppress the raw, messy, and often loud physical reactions to overwhelming events. We clench our jaws, stifle our sobs, and force our trembling hands to be still. We see these reactions as signs of weakness, a failure to be in control. But what if that shaking, those tears, and that deep, shuddering breath aren't weaknesses at all? What if they are the body’s ancient, innate wisdom at work, trying to heal you in real time? A therapist once shared a powerful story with me. She was in a car accident—a terrifying moment of screeching tires, impact, and shattering glass. After ensuring everyone was physically unharmed and the immediate danger had passed, she pulled her car safely to the side of the road. And then, she did something remarkable. She d...
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Decolonizing Healing

  Returning to Movement and Song: A Decolonized Path to Healing In today’s clinical landscape, healing often becomes confined to neat boxes—diagnoses, talk therapy, symptom management. However, for many, this structure does not fully capture what it means to be human, nor what it means to heal. Healing is more than talking; it’s remembering that, before therapy offices and diagnostic codes, we healed through the body, through song, through ritual, and community. Returning to Movement for Healing The body remembers what the mind forgets. Trauma, grief, loss—they live in muscle, fascia, posture, breath. When we sit still for too long, we trap these stories inside. Movement is the key to unlocking what has been frozen. In cultures around the world, healing has traditionally included movement, such as dance, walking meditations, and ritualized gestures. These are not simply physical acts—they are embodied expressions of pain, joy, grief, and hope. In returning to movement, we begin to ...
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Beyond the Bowel: How Eating More Fiber Can Boost Your Mental Health

  Beyond the Bowel: How Eating More Fiber Can Boost Your Mental Health We all know fiber is good for us. We hear it in relation to heart health, keeping us "regular," and managing weight. But what if one of the most powerful benefits of this humble carbohydrate had less to do with our gut, and more to do with our head? Emerging science is revealing a fascinating and powerful connection between dietary fiber and our mental well-being, suggesting that what we feed our gut has a direct line to our brain. If you've been looking for a holistic way to support your mental health, it might be time to look at your plate. The Gut-Brain Axis: A Two-Way Street The foundation of this connection lies in what scientists call the gut-brain axis . This isn't science fiction; it's a complex, bidirectional communication network linking your central nervous system (your brain and spinal cord) with your enteric nervous system (the nervous system of your gastrointestinal tract). Think ...
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